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Languishing

This word was discussed last year and it has resonated with me in many ways. The definition states it is the opposite of flourishing and includes- burnout, no motivation and numbness. When the Covid pandemic started people showed care, compassion and empathy towards each other. As everyone feels the burn out of Covid, testing, maskContinue reading “Languishing”

Confidence

Where does confidence come from? When I was a child I remember thinking adults knew all the answers. As an adult myself, I understand this is most definitely not the case. Is confidence just a way someone presents themselves to the world or is it more based on ego and a primary sense of authority?Continue reading “Confidence”

Grace and Compassion

Is this crazy Covid world we are now living where has all the compassion gone? During the start of the pandemic people were scared, but we turned to our neighbors, thanked our teachers, appreciated our nurses, loved our families a little harder. Now as we approach a time where this Covid challenge has been uponContinue reading “Grace and Compassion”

Protecting our kids

As a parent and counselor I can understand wanting to protect our children. It is hard to watch them fail, hurt and struggle. As an adult it seems natural to not want a child to feel pain or experience a hardship. Some adults go to great lengths to protect children shielding them from everything andContinue reading “Protecting our kids”

Disappointments

Being disappointed can be very challenging. With Covid, we hit a all time record of being disappointed. When people disappoint us do we tell them, do we just act like it doesn’t matter, do we just give up? Do we all feel the same level of disappointment or do some people have different expectations ofContinue reading “Disappointments”

Views and opinions

Why do we allow other peoples opinions to bother us so much? Do we feel the need to be “right” and those that have opposing views to be “wrong”. During the time of Covid- peoples views have been exposed so much more about so many different things. How do we let each other’s opinions notContinue reading “Views and opinions”

Fear

So many things seem to be impacted by peoples fears. People present angry, frustrated, disappointed and hateful because of fear. Instead of fear, what if we acknowledged our feelings, talked to one another and tried to understand different opinions. Listening to each other’s views doesn’t mean we need to agree, but just acknowledge each other’sContinue reading “Fear”

You get more bees with honey

It is amazing how many people want to enter a conversation by yelling. It is so important when you are dealing with a conflict to take a step back before reacting. You may get “heard” if you yell, but you will probably get what you are looking for in the long run.

What I learned from Listening

Listening is something we so often don’t really do. Really listening and finding ways to relate have been eye opening.

Where to start…

As a mom, daughter, wife and counselor working with kids I learn something new everyday. I love helping others and listening to others. I often get ideas and thoughts I would like to share and believe could be helpful. I certainly do not know it all, but I have 18+ years working as a counselorContinue reading “Where to start…”